Most people yearn for love! By the time I thought about marriage, more than 90 percent of all the people in the United States were searching “to be happily married.” Today, millennials have the same desire but are proceeding cautiously and waiting for the right partner. Maybe they have learned from previous generations that it is paramount to know each other before they tie the knot. Friends before romantic partners have long been the secret to finding the love of your life.
A report by eHarmony on relationships found that American couples from ages 25 to 34 knew each other for an average of six and a half years before marrying, compared to the standard of one year from previous generations.
That report was based on more than 2,000 American Adults who were either in a long-term relationship or married for several years. They were concerned about their main goal in life of being happily married for the long term. Marriage involves incredible prospects for happiness, but there is a considerable risk for failure. When two people fall in love and decide to commit their entire lives to each other, they have a choice to create a triumphant life or bring into being a life of hardship for themselves and the family.
Choosing a suitable mate is life’s single most consequential feat. It’s a challenge that some people are afraid to conquer. Others give up, while some people keep making the same mistake. Determination and finding your dream mate should be well thought out and given much patience. People should never be in a hurry.
Getting pregnant before a commitment was one of the culprits that led people to rush into marriage, especially religious-based. Now, the new generation is catching on and not letting society sculpt their lives. They are finding ways to keep their interest while discovering themselves in the process.
Everyone has a different course and path to take. Dreams of the forever after can significantly differ from someone who wants a good companion through life’s ups and downs.
You may ask yourself, is there a skill involved in finding a mate in this day and age? Our society influences the reason why people have made poor choices in partners. There are countless books about manipulating people to like you and how money plays a part in material happiness. Of course, television and the movie industry seem to put us into a trance of persuasion.
We also cannot rely on fairy tales or count on luck or chance. But we can wish and envision ourselves with that perfect someone. The book titled Wallflowers Pen Pals is an excellent example of two people looking for their ideal mate. Though they were already dating by the time they met, they were still unsure of their destination, only to what society has led them. All they wanted was someone to be honest, and sincere. The moment they shared their vulnerabilities and innermost thoughts, they found a connection. Their friendship gave them the confidence to learn more about each other without the constraints of what others thought of them. Sharing their unguarded emotions made them feel accepted and alive.
So being confident and honest with yourself before sharing your life with another person is one of the key ingredients to a happy marriage. Knowing what you want in life and allowing that existence to take its course will get you to your desired destination. So sit back, enjoy the journey, and don’t let statistics of divorce rates sway your purpose in life. By “purpose,” I mean living life with someone you can trust, love and care for in your lifetime.
Blog by K.L. Estrada, Author of Wallflower Pen Pals. Visit her website at www.klestrada.com or click button below to view her book.